To some extent, everyone is guilty of bringing their complaints to the wrong people—in other words to people who can’t do anything about the problem. Some bring their complaints about work home to their spouse, or perhaps bring complaints about their spouse to work. Why? Because it’s easier and less risky to complain to someone that doesn’t have a “dog in the fight.” It avoids confrontation and eliminates the need to muster the courage to ask for a behavioral change.
Successful people replace complaining with making requests and taking action that will achieve their desired outcomes. If they find themselves in a situation they don’t like, they either work to make it better or leave. In the spousal instance above, for example, they will agree to work on the relationship or get a divorce. For complaints about work they will attempt to improve working conditions or find a new job. The important goal here is to bring about change for the betterment of all parties.
Remember—the world doesn’t owe you anything. It is up to you to make the changes necessary, and to do something different that will result in creating the life that you want to live.
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