Dale Carnegie often questioned by people should be interested in you unless you are first interested in them. If we merely try to impress people and get people interested in us, he said, we will never have many true, sincere friends. Friends, real friends, are not made that way.
Napoleon tried it, and in his last meeting with Josephine he said: “Josephine, I have been as fortunate as any man ever was on this earth; and yet, at this hour, you are the ony person in the world on whom I can rely.” And in fact, historians doubt whether he could rely even on her.
In his legendary book, “How To Win Friends and Influence People,” Carnegie also talked about the famous Viennese psychologist, Alfred Adler, who wrote a book entitled “What Life Should Mean to You.” In that book Adler says: “It is the individual who is not interested in his fellow men who has the greatest difficulties among such individuals that all human failures spring.”
Indeed, becoming interested in other people is the only sure way to having them become interested in you. Here’s an example of this important principle in action from your friends at Dale Carnegie Training of Alabama: